Tonight, I find myself asking the question, "Why is it so hard for single people to find "The One"?" It's slightly ironic that I've asked myself this question both as a single person and now as a married person. I realize that for those that have strong religious/faith-based beliefs, the act of becoming married seems to be harder; perhaps, on account of "additional standards" relating to one's personal convictions.
Recently, I've taken special notice of many of my single friends. I have so many exceptional single friends - both guys and girls - that would love to be married. If this is their desire and one they feel G-d has ordained than I, too, desire this for each of them. Part of me wishes that it was easy enough to just pair people up like one of my favorite childhood games, Memory. I often find myself looking at the interests of these friends and making mental comparison charts like another good board game, Apples to Apples. Again, why is it so hard for them to find their intended wife or husband? I know from talking and walking alongside these friends that they would make excellent spouses, family leaders, future parents, married friends and community members. Why? Why? Why?
Furthermore, I'm sure you've heard statements like:
"She's so great, how come no one has snatched her up already? Something must be wrong..."
"He really wants to be married. I feel bad for him. Why doesn't he put himself out there more?"
"Maybe he or she is not meant to be married right now because G-d is using them in such a powerful way!"
Do these statements help? No, I don't think so. I also know that when I was single, I heard other statements like:
"Some guy is going to be so blessed to have you as his wife one day."
"When you get married, this time of waiting will seem worth it!"
"G-d has amazing things in store for you!"
Did these helps me have more patience while waiting for my husband to come into the picture? Not so much...
So what's my conclusion....
I don't have an answer!
This I do know: G-d's plans are always good, but not always easy. So, I will continue to pray for my friends and seek ways to be of help, understanding and support. I don't want to offer trifle words and I hope that just maybe G-d will use me as an intended or unintended matchmaker... :-) I'll end with two good quotes that I just found. Hope they bring a smile to your face and joy to your heart
Albert Ellis
The art of love... is largely the art of persistence.AnonymousIt is never too late to fall in love.
